Let’s look at a step-by-step procedure we can follow in building or rebuilding a happy marriage. 1.      Remember what you did b...

Let’s look at a step-by-step procedure we can follow in building or rebuilding a happy marriage.
1.     Remember what you did before you married each other.
Remember how you kept your best foot forward at all times, showed your best side, were on good behavior, were thoughtful, courteous, considerate and kind? That is excellent procedure to make certain you marriage stays solid. Even if it is in trouble at the moment, you can bring it back to its original bloom.
2.   Marriage is 100%/100% proposition.
Read Mary Crowley’s book, Moments With Mary. In this beautiful little book, the author points out that marriage is not a 50/50 proposition, it is 100%/100% proposition. Husband gives 100% to the marriage and wives do the same.
3.   Express your love for your mate.
Start and end everyday with a celebration of love for your mate, and during that day, if it is feasible, take three minutes to telephone just to chat and express your love. After all the best time to express your love for your mate is before someone else does.
4.   Surprise him with an occasional gift or card.
It is obvious isn’t the gift in itself, but the thought behind the gift. As Sir Lacelot said, “The gift without the giver is bare.” 
5.    Spend some quality time together.
Remember how you courted each other so avidly and how you had so much time just for courting before marriage? Repeat the process. Go for a walk or simply turn off the TV and make your mate feel as if he or she is the most important person in your life. He or she is, whether or not you realize it at this moment.
6.   Be a good listener.
A wise man once said, “Talking is sharing but listening is caring.” Listen to the myriads of detail and small talk that make up your mate’s day. Always remember that duty makes us do things well, but love makes us do them beautifully. Interestingly enough, you will be amazed at how exciting some of those details can be.
7.    Reserve time just for him or her.
Don’t make your husband or wife compete with kids for your attention. Reserve time just for him or her.
8.   Never go to sleep at night with unresolved differences.
When you disagree, remember, you can disagree without being disagreeable. However, you must never go to sleep at night with unresolved differences. You will not sleep as well and these differences will settle in both of your subconscious minds and will be recurring source of problems. You can be honest and yet sensitive to each other.
9.   Man should be the head of the household.
Remember, our creator decreed that the man is the head of the household. However, the husband must remember he can fill this role with love and kindness and yet with authority and firmness. God also teaches us that man is to honor his wife and to love her as his own body (Eph 5:28). A woman is infinitely  more secure knowing she has a man to handle the major decisions.
10.  Bend over backwards.
Remember, you will often have to “bend over backwards” to please and understand your mate. That position might be a little uncomfortable but it makes it difficult for you or your marriage to fall on its face.
11. Follow this recipe.
Take love and loyalty and mix it thoroughly with faith. Blend it with tenderness, kindness and understanding. Add friendship and hope. Sprinkle abundantly with laughter. Bake it with sunshine. Server helping daily.
12. Use Ephesians 4:32 as your daily guide.
“And be kind to one another , tender-hearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ has forgiven you.”
13. Pray together.
Evidence is substantial that husbands and wives who pray together on a daily basis have a lesser divorce rate.
14. Make the move
Remember, when the inevitable disagreement takes place, who makes the move to “make up” isn’t important. However, the one who makes the move demonstrates the greater maturity and love
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